My name is
antalie, my colleagues bring their books with and laptops . . . at the end of
the day their work is not done and i need to do it. I spoke to them nothing
happened and told my boss. Result was that I'm the one to be blamed cause i don't
communicate and looking down on others and i don't . . . Yesterday my boss
confronted me and said that I made them feel unwelcome and I should remember how
long it took me to get training.this is so hurtful and a specially knowing that a
colleague i liked trust and loved would go and lie to my face and say such
thing. . . . I'm sad, hurt
and thought i was not angry but i am a little, she gave me gifts so I'll be
returning them to her, cant keep something knowing someone lies to me hate
lieing. Got any advise for me?
Dear Antalie ~
Do not return her gifts! That will be perceived by your coworker as spiteful. Regift them to someone outside the office if you don't feel comfortable keeping them; but let that issue go so that the animosity between you begin to cool.
Here are some assumptions I think you should challenge, dear Sister. Ask yourself and then your boss, "Do I really need to do someone else's work that is not done at the end of the day?" Not knowing how your boss allows you to identify 'your' work vs a colleague's work, I think this should be the first thing that gets defined unemotionally. In my job, this is identified 100% through log-in data and automated reporting.
One way or the other, if your colleague(s) are stealing from their employer by being off-task or doing personal business on employer time, they will eventually be found out. If you've been given supervisory responsibility for a colleague's performance, you probably should bring the issue to their attention by stating the company policy and that you are in fact documenting for their performance review . . . both compliance and refusal to comply. {Documentation of performance should always reflect both praise and room for improvement.}Then let your boss know in a quick memo that you have shared the company policy with all employees you are expected to evaluate.
I'm puzzled that your boss did not address or at least define for you and your co-workers the policy for cell phones, ipads, tablets, and e-readers at work. At my workplace, cell phones are forbidden; but my very likable Christian Sister who is training me uses hers with impunity. She also takes a lot of frequent personal time; but she comes in early and stays late and she doesn't always take an hour for lunch. She is also the company's most productive worker and has set productivity records that benefit everyone when commission checks are calculated. Her work patterns do affect my training productivity; but if that becomes an issue for the boss, I will share forthrightly with him how things could be moving along more efficiently. Meanwhile, I have developed other projects I can do independently when she is not available; and this keeps me from feeling frustrated.
Finally, Sister Antalie, I think you might benefit from something my precious Christian sister/mentor said to me when I found myself highly resenting the treatment and behavior of another Christian sister. She said to both of us, "The more mature Christian bears the greatest accountability." This revelation has never failed to move me out of my self-righteous bent and into a heart attitude that will allow the Holy Spirit to build the Ministry of Reconciliation.
It's not easy to tell, either, whether your colleagues are believers or unbelievers. If they are the former, perhaps they are immature believers or "baby Christians" who need the example of a more mature believer to motivate them . . . or at the very least just to set the bar high for ethical standards at work. I will be praying that if you pursue The Ministry God has given us all ~ The Ministry of Reconciliation ~ with your colleagues, the Holy Spirit will help you sort out who owns what responsibility at work and which battles He really wants to help you fight. ~ God's Peace ~
Dear Antalie ~
Do not return her gifts! That will be perceived by your coworker as spiteful. Regift them to someone outside the office if you don't feel comfortable keeping them; but let that issue go so that the animosity between you begin to cool.
Here are some assumptions I think you should challenge, dear Sister. Ask yourself and then your boss, "Do I really need to do someone else's work that is not done at the end of the day?" Not knowing how your boss allows you to identify 'your' work vs a colleague's work, I think this should be the first thing that gets defined unemotionally. In my job, this is identified 100% through log-in data and automated reporting.
One way or the other, if your colleague(s) are stealing from their employer by being off-task or doing personal business on employer time, they will eventually be found out. If you've been given supervisory responsibility for a colleague's performance, you probably should bring the issue to their attention by stating the company policy and that you are in fact documenting for their performance review . . . both compliance and refusal to comply. {Documentation of performance should always reflect both praise and room for improvement.}Then let your boss know in a quick memo that you have shared the company policy with all employees you are expected to evaluate.
I'm puzzled that your boss did not address or at least define for you and your co-workers the policy for cell phones, ipads, tablets, and e-readers at work. At my workplace, cell phones are forbidden; but my very likable Christian Sister who is training me uses hers with impunity. She also takes a lot of frequent personal time; but she comes in early and stays late and she doesn't always take an hour for lunch. She is also the company's most productive worker and has set productivity records that benefit everyone when commission checks are calculated. Her work patterns do affect my training productivity; but if that becomes an issue for the boss, I will share forthrightly with him how things could be moving along more efficiently. Meanwhile, I have developed other projects I can do independently when she is not available; and this keeps me from feeling frustrated.
Finally, Sister Antalie, I think you might benefit from something my precious Christian sister/mentor said to me when I found myself highly resenting the treatment and behavior of another Christian sister. She said to both of us, "The more mature Christian bears the greatest accountability." This revelation has never failed to move me out of my self-righteous bent and into a heart attitude that will allow the Holy Spirit to build the Ministry of Reconciliation.
It's not easy to tell, either, whether your colleagues are believers or unbelievers. If they are the former, perhaps they are immature believers or "baby Christians" who need the example of a more mature believer to motivate them . . . or at the very least just to set the bar high for ethical standards at work. I will be praying that if you pursue The Ministry God has given us all ~ The Ministry of Reconciliation ~ with your colleagues, the Holy Spirit will help you sort out who owns what responsibility at work and which battles He really wants to help you fight. ~ God's Peace ~
